My opinion is that asking why me puts you into victim mode. As if the powers that be are picking on you and picking on you exclusively. I'm here to say life picks on everyone.

I don't find asking why me to be useful. What is this teaching me? Sometimes I don't know what I learned from an experience for months or years later. That could be cuz I can be extremely stubborn.

In 2012 my kids and hubs were in a really bad car accident. The kids had to have major surgeries and were in the hospital for about a week and a half. I remember a mom from the kids school came to visit and all she could focus was the why me question. She asked me if I ask myself that ... she said she'd be asking herself that very question in my situation.

I said no, I'm not asking why me. I'm focused currently on my kids and their healing. I'll worry about the why's of things when they are healed. I never did ask that question.

What I did learn from the experience is that life can be taken from you in nano second. Doesn't matter how old, how good of shape, if you eat healthy ect ect ect..... That time was a turning point in how I wanted my life to look. I wasn't going to waste time and energy on things society said was important but in reality are not important at all.

That is just one of many fucked up experiences that formed my opinion about asking why me. What we consider negative experiences are chances to grow, there is always a lesson. It's more productive and healthier for my emotional state to ask what can I learn.